Child Development by Age and How to Deal with Them

That 2-year-old little boy cries when mommy is away. On the other hand, the 4-year-old child won’t do her homework when she’s told to. Not all children are the same because how they behave and how they respond to their environment varies on their ages. We, parents and live-in nanny, often think there is a babysitting strategy that works for everyone but the truth is children’s cognitive development has different stages, thus our nanny strategies must upgrade as they grow up too.


We understand that your live-in nanny is no psychologist but sharing with her what some famous psychologists think will give her an idea how to effectively deal with children! Here are ways to deal with kids based on their ages:


Strategies for 0-2 years old
Babies use their mouths often to test on objects, biting or chewing the stuff their small hands have caught. This is because they learn by manipulating objects, by looking at it, feeling it, and repeatedly manipulating it. During this early stage, the Indonesian maid | Filipino maid | Myanmar maid must make sure the utensils and objects the infant touches is sterile to keep him healthy. They will also play a lot during their first 2 years as a part of their cognitive development, so it important that the live-in maid keeps an eye on the crawling infant all day.


Piaget, famous for his theory of cognitive development, introduced the concept ‘object permanence’ which is a sense of stability kids must achieve at this age. Kids from 0-2 years old cry when their moms are out for work because they think an object/person cease to exist when they are out of sight. The Indonesian maid | Filipino maid | Myanmar maid’s goal here is to set up routines, make the child’s day most predictable, and to stress that parents come back after being away. As the child’s nanny, she must act as the primary caregiver. The live-in maid’s role is also crucial in cementing routines, making sure his schedule on bathing, eating, or sleeping is on time and in order.


Strategies for Stage 3 – 4 years old
As ironic as it is, age 3-4 years old is the age where children should have choices and must assert their independence. Parents and live-in nannies, as adults, surely know better than a 3-year-old child who wants to finish up one jar of candies. However, forcing them to follow our orders may impact them negatively according to Erik Erikson’s theory of psychosocial development. Erickson said that children this age must develop a sense of personal control and independence to develop the ‘virtue of will’. Failure to overcome this stage will result in lack of self-esteem and feel a sense of shame and doubt even later in his life.


So, how do Indonesian maid | Filipino maid | Myanmar maid kids assert their independence in a way that they wouldn’t harm themselves? If we’re talking about how they want a jar of candies, live-in maids may try offering other healthier alternatives instead. For example, let them choose between banana split or watermelon popsicles, or something sweet but healthy. This way, we can make them feel like they aren’t being bossed around but we also veered their attention away from that candies. Give the child much better choices that are favorable to you too in other words. It’s a win-win!

Strategies for Stage 5 – 6 years old
During this stage, the children are starting to reason and develop their thinking skills. They are extremely curious about other people and understand their life routine. This is a great opportunity for the Indonesian maid | Filipino maid | Myanmar maid to discuss why there are rules and certain limitations in daily living. When they understand what are these laws are for, they tend to follow them.


At age 5-6 years old, kids are most enthusiastic to go to school and be interested in writing, reading, counting, and doing things on their own. What the live-in maids can do is to aid them with their academics by reading with them or helping them with their homework. What the Indonesian maid | Filipino maid | Myanmar maid will also notice is that children these age love cooperative playing and they are becoming more social so it would be best if nannies and caregivers alike would monitor them, making sure they are in a healthy company.


The family’s health and safety should be the top priority. Eden Grace Maids Agency offers maid services which will help us secure our children’s safety when we’re not around. The choice to hire a maid who can take care of the tiring household chores and things we cannot handle on our own will definitely be a plus point!


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