What To Say To An Angry Child
Humans are emotional beings. Anger chooses no ages and molding swings can happen to anyone, even your kids! When you see gigantic tantrums, small fists hitting the air, hearing high pitch screams, or small voices talking back, you better think before doing or saying something! Children are sensitive and you are still the ultimate model of the character they are still molding. Calm down! We have here a list of the right words to say when you’re are having a row with your child:
Tell you love him.
This simple reminder from your heart will calm him down. It is important for a parent to remind her child that no matter how they fight, you still love them. The child should hear this as often as possible.
Tell him you know he’s angry.
When you let your child know about your awareness of his anger, you give both of you a chance to about the situation. You will give him an idea that he’s becoming uncontrollable and that he must watch put of his own actions. You must also let him know that anger is normal. It is okay to feel that way at the moment.
Calmly offer your help.
Start with the question ‘Would you like my help?’ Giving them a choice makes them feel involved and relevant. You can offer a hug but most of them refuses to be touched so the best way is just to talk to them and not insisting yourself. You can also use the phrase ‘I wonder if…’. Children may not understand why are they angry. In situation like these, you can indirectly ask the reason of their anger through suggesting the reasons of how they really feel. For example, ‘I wonder if you want to go out.’ or ‘I wonder if this thing irritates you.’
Let them know what you’ll do next.
Children often seek parent’s attention through exhibiting physical manifestation of their anger. So when you see him grit his teeth, stomp his feet or break down on the floor, tell him what you’ll do next. ‘I’m going to stay on the kitchen until you finish screaming.’ ‘I’m going to wait outside until you’re ready.’
Tell the you’ll solve the problem later.
Sometimes, anger flares at the wrong time. When ‘now’ is not the right time, tell him both of you will solve the problem later. This will stop him from getting angry at the moment and let him calm down before the actual solution is presented. Also, encourage them to start over. This will help them get over frustrations.
Tell them the boundaries.
It’s okay to be angry but tell them the don’ts of an angry man. Be consistent on your rules and never tolerate the anger that harms both of you in your house. In the end, remind them of the solutions in the past that worked and suggest to try it again.
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